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What are some common BDSM kinks?

By Emily 4 years ago. Posted in Relationship Advice
What are some common BDSM kinks?

BDSM mostly means any sexual activities or behaviour that fall under the umbrella of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism. BDSM isn’t rare or a fad. Beginner BDSM gear right through to BDSM advanced play products are hugely popular here at Adulttoymegastore – as popular as all of our general products like vibes and dildos. It’s also not a new fad – it has been around forever. It’s just becoming more and more popular. There are so many ways to try or get involved in BDSM, everything from wearing a blindfold to urethral play – it’s all valid.

Here's a list of common pleasurable BDSM kinks!

Dress ups

Spice up your sex life with light bondage wear.Light bondage wear usually involves incorporating familiar restraints with your favourite pieces of lingerie, or vice versa. Playing with actions or sensations you are already familiar with but putting a BDSM spin on things. It's all about visual arousal.

This Harness from Bijoux Indiscrets is a great way to promote visual arousal. You can either accompany this harness with lingerie or not! Either way, it's going to emphasise the vulnerability of your partner. Making for one of your most passionate encounters yet!

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Try some animal role play with some tail plugs, or if you love a trip to the doctors, there's a heap of medical play gear available too.

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Spanking

The world of BDSM and bondage play often includes a little bit of spanking here and there, either with your hands or using a bondage whip, bondage crop, or bondage paddles or spankers. If your fantasies include being disciplined and you enjoy a bit of a spanking then look no further then these great paddles and spankers.

Beautifully designed, this spanking bat features two broad spanking surfaces, an ergonomic handle complete with a wrist strap and is adorned with a classic black and white photo of Bettie Page in a classic pose.

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Take control of any situation with this triple heart paddle. Imprint your bottom with these high-quality, tanned leather slappers. These paddles will certainly help you leave a mark. One crack of this Fantasy Rubber Paddle and your lover will know who's in charge! This bendable rubber paddle is soft enough for beginners to enjoy but stiff enough to still provide a firm whack. It hurts so good!

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Wax Play

Wax play is as exciting as it is pleasurable. It's fun activity that brings all of the senses into play. Grab a blind fold and some special wax play candles and get hot and heavy!

Before you get down to business and try out your candles, set some ground rules with your partner – what are you comfortable with? What will you do if you’re uncomfortable? Do you need a safe word?

Next up you need to set up your “play space”. It needs to be clear – no clutter! Look around, what could catch fire? Make sure nothing is around that will go up in flames! You’ll also need a fire extinguisher or a bucket of water. I know it doesn’t sound very sexy but it’s definitely not sexy having your house burn down.

Your third step before getting down to business is to make sure you have the right candle. Candles made for wax play are soft and have a lower melting point which means when they touch your skill it’s like a hot lick not a million fire ants destroying your genitals. Other candles have an awful mix of chemicals in them to make them smell nice or look nice. You don’t want that on your skin. Don’t ever use beeswax and it gets far too hot – you will get serious burns.

Finally – try the candle on your own skin, and have your partner do the same. Try it in three places – the palm of your hand, your inner thigh, and your tummy. Wait, see how your body reacts. If you’re hairy – for obvious reasons consider shaving!

Drip it onto your chest, nipples, breasts, tummy and arms. Surprise your partner with some sensual play.

Try these sleek Japanese drip candles. They are specially formulated for the body. Whether you already enjoy BDSM or you are looking to introduce a little pleasure with pain for gentle bondage play, these candles will tease and arouse your partner like never before! Simply drip the wax over their body for exciting sensations, and easily peel off for clean up.

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Nipple clamps

When your BDSM scenario looks exactly how you imagined, you might need to pinch yourself! If you love an intense pricking pleasure you must try nipple clamps! Nipple clamping provides pressure to your nipples and restricts blood flow. This can be a painful and pleasurable experience. People who love nipple clamps describe the feeling as an intense pinching sensation.

Heighten your pleasure by exploring your pain threshold with these First Time Fetish Nipple Teasers. The clamps allow you to adjust the amount of pressure applied to your nipple with the screw, and have rubber tipped ends that make the experience more comfortable. The clamps are connected with a 12.75 inch long sturdy metal chain. Increase the sensations the clamps provide by gently pulling on the chain.

Make your nipples perk with pleasure with these pretty beginner Feather Nipple Clamps. Made with durable metal clips and covered in soft rubber liners, these clamps are perfect for beginners and fetish enthusiasts alike. The amount of pressure you apply to the nipple is adjustable by turning the screw, while the soft feather streamers tease, tickle and titillate!

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Tickle play

Do not underestimate feather ticklers. This Plume Feather Tickler is the ultimate tease when your submissive is binded. Every stroke results in agonising sensation, you'll be surprised about how much desire a tickler can drump up. Although, don’t brush over the other ways ticklers can be used. This Chain Tickler is gem encrusted and meant to give a mighty sting!

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Restraints

Many people love the idea of being tied up and being under complete control of their partner. In fact, for many people of all genders this is one of their biggest sexual fantasies. If you are new to restraints, then it's a good idea to start out at the tamer end of the spectrum. So, for now it's best to avoid ropes or metal handcuffs and stick to silk ties, fluffy hand-cuffs, or fabric restraints with Velcro. If you want something discrete the Sportsheets Bed Bondage set can tuck under your mattress.

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Blindfolds

Blindfolds are an enlightening bondage piece that are satisfying to the senses and seductive to your partner. Blindfolds are great to accompany with other bondage wear or your favourite bondage restraints.

Locking out ones vision may seem really simple, but the difference it makes is underrated. When it comes to helping your partner relax and enjoy receiving stimulation. Blindfolds helps emphasise other senses and heighten the stimulation provided. If you’re unsure about playing with a blindfold, use a tie, scarf or anything similar to experiment with.

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Gags

Gags come in several different styles and offer varying levels of restraint. It's important you do some research first before purchasing as some are more suitable for beginners, while others are more suited for experienced users. Whether you use your gag to increase the size and access to your partner's mouth, to use it as a form of control, or just for the visual pleasure there is a gag type for you!

Ball gags and Bit gags are the most common gags used within BDSM play and although they may not be as effective at silencing the wearer, they still limit your ability to communicate. The ball gag is designed to sit tightly yet comfortably in your mouth, while an adjustable (generally leather) strap is fastened around the back of your neck. A bit gag is long and narrower than a ball gag. It sticks out on each side of your mouth, working similar to how a dog holds a bone. Due to your mouth being propped open by these two types of gags, it makes it difficult to swallow salvia which can result in a bit of drooling. But hey, drooling can be pretty sexy!

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Ball and Bit gags are considered pretty safe since they sit just inside the mouth, without going all the way in. The material you opt for will depend how comfortable you find your experience, as silicone will be a lot more comfortable against your teeth in comparison to plastic or metal. You may not be able to say your safe word so you must have a safe action - like dropping your arms if you want to stop.

Important things to remember!

Before incorporating any new BDSM toys, actions or language into your sex life, thorough negotiation needs to take place! Discussing the limitations of what each partner is comfortable with is essential to a pleasurable experience.

See our BDSM experts guide on - 'Negotiating a BDSM Scene'.

Be sure to identify a safe word beforehand! Pick something that will stick out if yelled out - so not anything like "more" or "YES!" try something like "unicorn" or "Orange".

Finally, only participate in BDSM play with someone you have the utmost trust in. This will not only ensure sexual comfort but will further make the entire experience a lot more intimate.

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Adulttoymegastore has a huge range of sex toys including vibrators, dildos and cock rings for every occasion! With fast, 100% discreet shipping, and price guarantee, ATMS has everything you need to make good sex, great!

Emily
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