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Addressing the Shame Around Men Using Adult Toys!

By Orin Ruaine-Prattley 7 months ago. Posted in Sexual Health
Addressing the Shame Around Men Using Adult Toys!

Adult toys in popular culture were first discovered in Sex in the City's "The Turtle and the Hare" episode. The toy in question being a rabbit vibrator and would be introduced by Miranda, then followed by the innocent Charlotte who almost gives up on men altogether. This scene marked ground breaking empowerment around female masturbation and the use of sex toys, which was previously clouded in shame. Since then popular culture has featured a few more frisky moments, including Sense8 showing two women sharing a strap-on, Grace and Frankie's self-designed sex toys and most recently Broad City's pegging scene.

However, plain old male masturbation using a sex toy never really received similar feelings of empowerment. It more has feelings of being seedy or creepy or offers the potential to incorporate some risque humour into the character that plays a bit of a loser. The point is, if a woman has the Satisfyer Pro 2 hidden away in their top draw, it's a sexually empowering reflection of self-pleasure. Whilst, if a man has a Phat Ass White Girl Masturbator in the closet, he's perceived as being a bit weird or desperate.


Why should men be trying out adult toys?

Adult sex toys are simply an awesome way to becoming a better lover. Where men are encouraged to explore their body and find pleasure in being patient with their pleasure. These new skills help men appreciate their partners when it comes to creating arousal, comfort and ultimately satisfaction.

However, it's not all about becoming better, it's also about experiencing some new sensations. The orgasm you experience with a masturbator is likely to be better than the handheld classic. It can be refreshing to create some variation in the way you get off. Just like how an exciting sex life in a relationship can thrive off variation, spontaneity and the addition of a toy.


One important thing to realise about male masturbation is that it has nothing to do with your overall identity. Using an adult product is a great way of separating pleasure with one's identity. You may have realised that when you are aroused, your sexual horizon actually increases, your mind becomes more comfortable thinking about alternative desires that have never been discussed or even voiced before. Masturbation is not the time to feel restricted, it's a time for sexual brainstorming! A healthy act of sexual prowess rather than a limited lack of lust behind closed doors.

Adult toys are a useful way of addressing some cultural barriers in a secure, private setting. Especially for heterosexual men, there are so many acts or expectations that dictate how we perceive masculinity. This is why so many men are extremely put off the thought of anal toys or anal play. The negative being that if we know anyone or groups of people that indulge in something that we are not comfortable with, a common reaction is to vilify them. This could be people of different sexualities, your peers and even your own partner. Recently the Sun posted an article about a husband who wasn't performing in bed, yet refused to let his Wife buy a vibrator. The post caused public outrage, encouraging the wife to buy the vibrator or simply "not be arsed" with someone who has little care for their partners pleasure. This just shows that being open to the idea of sex toys, shared or not, is not just sexually satisfying but further reflects upon levels of intimacy and caring for each other.

A few male adult toys to consider

Here a few recommended and popular male adult toys to try-out!

  • The Mega Stretch Doughnut Ring is a quick way to better sexual performance. Prolonging ejaculation, creating stronger erections and a more satisfying orgasm.
  • Another way to better performance. The Pink Lady Stamina Unit from Fleshlight mimics penetration so you can make the most out of masturbation. Although it might start taking a while!
  • You'll be surprised how popular this Vibrating Perfect Butt Plug is! More and more men are indulging in backdoor pleasure.
  • Finally, the Egg Silky from Tenga. A discreet, one use masturbation sleeve for a bit of variation in your routine.


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