Curious about the seductive realm of fetish? We’re here to help you navigate the sensual world of fetish toys – from paddles to pinwheels, we have you covered!

Whether you’re just beginning your kink journey or are a grizzled veteran, we’ll guide you through a variety of kinks, fetishes, and the toys to go with them. Exploring your fetishes in a safe, consensual environment is key to understanding your needs and desires, and how to fulfil them.

What is a fetish toy?

Fetish toys, also known as kink toys, encompass a wide variety of sexual interests and primarily align with BDSM. These can mostly be sorted into 4 categories: Bondage, Pleasure/Pain, Erotic Roleplay, and Specific Fetishes. Fetish toys are sex toys designed to satisfy a particular fetish – for example, a flogger or chastity cage. There are a large range of fetishes out there, but fortunately, there’s a toy to go with just about any fetish!

One of the best things about fetish toys is that they scale between beginner, intermediate, and expert for almost any kink. For example, impact play toys range from paddles and floggers for light, beginner-friendly enjoyment to canes and whips for hardcore BDSM scenes. Fortunately, fetish gear for beginners doesn’t stop being useful when you become more of an expert – rather, all that changes is that you know how to use it better.

Fetish toys can also be great ways to be enhance intimacy with your partner. Fetish play places a heavy importance on consent and mutual trust and can help you feel closer to your partner both in the bedroom and outside of it! Often, it can be hard to discuss your kinks and fetishes with your partner, but if you are able to explore your fetishes together, it brings a whole new level of intimacy to your relationship!

Tips for first time exploration

If you’re exploring your fetishes for the first time, you’re in for a treat! Exploring the world of kink is sensual and exciting, and can truly be a game-changer in the bedroom. When you’re starting out, you should absolutely start small – don’t try to jump in too deep. It’s best to educate yourself, start out with what you’re most comfortable with, and work your way up to the more extreme things.

Communication is also very important when you’re exploring your kinks. Since you’re still understanding your needs, wants, and limits, it’s important to be able to communicate this with your partner. Together, you can move towards improving and enhancing your experience.

Beginner friendly options

When you’re just starting out, it’s best to try out the classics! Restraints are a great introduction to BDSM and can be used by beginners and experts alike. The Share Satisfaction Luxury Handcuffs are comfortable and versatile, perfect for all manner of positions and situations.

Blindfolds are also an amazing tool in any dominant’s toolkit. Being unable to see heightens the rest of your senses and makes your touch all the more sensual. Pair the Share Satisfaction Luxury Satin Blindfold with cuffs to have your partner bound and unable to resist your touch (or see it coming!)

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Of course, bondage toys aren’t everything that fetish toys have to offer. Experience exciting new sensations with the Bound Luxury Riding Crop, a dual-purpose crop and tickler. Use the feathered end to give your partner goosebumps as it skates over their skin, then enjoy some light impact play with the crop end. This toy shines when your partner is restrained – you’re free to tickle and tease them, then punish them if they wriggle too much!

Pair your kinky night of pleasure with the Share Satisfaction Gemi Wand Vibrator to help both of you meet your climax! Tease her clit with the wand head, then penetrate her with the textured and vibrating handle. Want to edge your partner? Switch between the two ends and watch them struggle against their restraints as they beg to come – you can’t go wrong with this toy.

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Advanced gear

For the more experienced kink enthusiasts, the possibilities are limitless. Depending on your fetishes, there are a number of toys that could appeal to you. If you enjoy CBT, then Ball Stretchers or Chastity Cages are for you. Pegging and Strap-Ons are amazing for couples, or if you’re into hardcore BDSM, you could even take a look at obtaining some fetish furniture.

Knowing what you’re looking for is key to getting the right toy. Toys can be compatible with multiple fetishes, but doing thorough research makes sure you’re getting the best toy for you. Below, we’ll explore a variety of toys for an assortment of fetishes. If you’re not sure what kind of toy you’re after, read on and see if any of these tick all the right boxes for you!

Restraints and Bondage Gear

If handcuffs aren’t enough for you anymore, then ropes might be more up your alley! Rope bondage, otherwise known as Shibari, is a versatile and erotic form of bondage. It can range from tying down your partner’s limbs to creating stunning body harnesses that double as restraints. Safety is of the utmost importance when exploring rope bondage, so ensure you have something to cut the rope with nearby. Make sure you're comfortable with the knots and ties you will be using as well.

I’d recommend using Share Satisfaction Luxury Bondage Rope as it’s made from a silky material that won’t chafe against your skin. It's also long enough for you to experiment with a variety of ties. There are a number of colours available to choose from as well, so you can get one in a colour that suits you.

Want to keep your partner’s legs open whilst still restrained, rather than cuffed closed? A spreader bar might be exactly what you’re looking for! These devices are cuffed to your partner’s ankles and prevent them from closing their legs. Perfect for edging, orgasm control, and all manner of teasing, spreader bars are an amazing way to overstimulate your partner!

I’d recommend the Bound Luxury Spreader Bar as a reliable, cost-effective option. It’s compatible with any kind of cuffs and has extra clips to be able to accommodate wrist cuffs as well as ankle cuffs. You can have all their limbs restrained on one bar, leaving them fully at your mercy and unable to hide their most private parts between their legs!

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Pegging Kits & Harnesses

Pegging toys are a great way to reverse your sexual dynamic. Instead of the penis-owner being the one doing the penetrating, a vulva-owner can penetrate the penis-owner instead! If you’re not used to anal play, it’s best to warm up to pegging. Dildos can feel quite large and hard for your anus to handle if it’s not used to anal stimulation. Lubricant will be your best friend – use lots and lots of it! This will allow the dildo to slide smoothly in and out, preventing any chafing or discomfort during penetration.

The Bound Luxury Pegging Panty With Dildo can be a great place to start, as this has both a harness and a dildo designed for pegging. These slip on like underwear, letting you put them on in an instant without having to worry about any annoying buckles or straps. They even have a pocket for a small bullet vibrator, so you can add some sensual vibrations to your penetration experience.

A pegging harness, however, allows you to use your favourite dildo or switch between a few options. Make sure to measure the diameter of your dildo to check that it can fit in the harness you choose! A harness allows you to penetrate your partner with dildos of all shapes and sizes. I’d recommend the Get Lucky Strap-on Harness, as it’s compatible with most dildos and is easy to put on and take off. Its stylish black and red design is minimalist, not to distract attention from the star of the show – the dildo inside!

Looking for more information? Read our How to Choose a Strap-on Dildo guide.

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CBT Toys

CBT, otherwise known as Cock and Ball Torture, is closely tied to masochism and sadism, the SM in BDSM. This fetish involves inflicting pain to the cock and balls, as a form of discipline and masochism. This fetish should be carried out with caution, as you don’t want to inflict permanent damage. All parties involved should be comfortable with the level of pain involved and the methods used to inflict it before indulging in this kink.

Ball stretchers, whilst not designed to inflict pain, can be used in connection with this kink. They are designed to lower the balls from your cock and create a low-hanging effect. You can wear these during play, or even over the course of a day. Some people find that ball stretching can prolong their orgasm and make it more intense, whereas others simply enjoy the feel of wearing one. The Neo Angle Ball Stretcher is a good choice for any and all users – made of silicone, it’s easy to put on and can be worn for long periods. Whilst it’s not the heaviest, what it lacks in weight it makes up for in comfort. It’s great for beginners or for experienced users to wear long-term. Not enough stretch for you? Pair with a weighted ball stretcher to provide the stretch you’re craving.

If you’re after a bit more pain, then the Kinki Stainless Steel Ball Crusher will be more your style. This toy clamps around your scrotum and can be inched up and up to provide a slow, painful, crushing sensation. Its adjustable nature lets you customise the pain level and work your way up to tighter and tighter settings! It’s also temperature conductive, so submerge it in hot or cold water before use for a warm or icy sensation, depending on your mood.

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Chastity Cages & Devices

When you think of Chastity, the first thing that comes to most people's minds is maidens locked in chastity to protect their virginity. Chastity devices may have originally been designed to protect the purity of young women, but they’ve found a new home as a tool of orgasm control.

Chastity cages prevent the wearer from obtaining an erection and from engaging in masturbation or sex. They can be worn for a few hours, an evening, or for a longer period. When in a chastity cage, the holder of the key has complete control over your sexual gratification. This makes chastity cages perfect for orgasm denial, teasing, humiliation, and enforcing your BDSM dynamic in (and potentially out) of the bedroom.

A good cage to begin with is the Kinki Maximum Security Chastity Cage. Made of high-quality resin, it’s a cheap way to explore the world of chastity without breaking the bank. The slight curve discourages erections, and the holes allow your skin to breathe, allowing it to be worn for long periods of time. Pink not quite your colour? Luckily, there is a range of colours for you to choose from, so you can at least be locked up in a pretty-looking cage… a small bonus at the cost of a night or more in chastity!

If you’ve already experienced some chastity and are looking for a more extreme cage, the Button Hex Lock Inverted Chastity Cage might be the one for you. Unlike a normal chastity cage, the inverted chastity cage prevents your penis from getting erect at all! It pushes your penis in and traps the skin around it. When you try to get hard, the skin prevents your penis from getting erect. This is a smaller, tighter, and more extreme form of cage. It’s also more discreet, thanks to its flat nature. If you’re engaging in long-term chastity, this cage can be worn safely under clothes and is less noticeable than a standard chastity cage.

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Pumps

Vacuum pumps are a toy that any gender can enjoy. Creating a vacuum around your genitalia increases blood flow for a variety of effects. For penis-owners, a penis pump can increase the length and girth of an erection. For vulva-owners, a pussy pump increases the sensitivity of your clit and vulva. For all genders, there’s a reason to want a pump!

For penis-owners, a pump can be a great tool for making your erection longer and harder. They are also amazing for dealing with Erectile Dysfunction, especially for older adults. A penis pump creates a vacuum that increases blood flow to the penis and doesn’t need the prerequisites that many other treatments for erectile dysfunction do.

Hand-operated pumps allow you to choose the level of suction you want so you can grow your erection as quickly or slowly as you desire. The Evolve Thrust Penis Pump is my pick due to its ease of use and ability to be used one-handed. It even has a measurement gauge, so you can track the changes in real time!

Want to know more? Read The Ultimate Guide to Penis Pumps: How To Choose & Use a Penis Pump.

For vulva-owners, pussy pumps can increase sensitivity around your clitoris and vulva. This increased sensitivity makes touch feel so much more tingly and can supercharge your sex or solo enjoyment! It can also create a swollen look, making your vulva look plump and lush, like it’s come straight out of a porn film! Many users pump for this aesthetic, as well as for the increased sensitivity.

A great option for a pussy pump is the Fetish Fantasy Extreme Vibrating Pussy Pump. Not only can you adjust the suction level, but it also features a vibrating bullet to maximise your pleasure! It’s easy to lower and increase the suction as necessary, and the bullet vibrator can be removed to stimulate other areas of your body, as well. This is an all-around great choice, no matter how you’re using the pump.

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Sensory Toys

Sensory toys are all about producing exciting, seductive feelings on your skin. Some toys walk the fine line between pleasure and pain, such as floggers and paddles. Others focus on stimulating your skin, such as candles and pinwheels.

Impact play can be both pleasurable and painful, depending on the strength and where it is aimed. Whilst it is primarily used as a punishment in BDSM dynamics, many people find that it can be quite pleasurable and arousing. Floggers walk this line perfectly – the tassels on their own are soft, teasing, and arousing, but when swung, provide a biting slap. The Bound Luxury Flogger brings the luxurious feel without compromising that oh-so-satisfying stinging sensation. Mixing soft, teasing touches of the flogger running across their skin with occasional thwacks to the backside can create the ideal blend of sensual anticipation and light pain that drives a submissive wild!

If you want something a little more painful, a paddle can provide a larger impact area and can have more force put behind it. These are a great next step into the world of impact play, allowing for more intense pain without going too hardcore.

If impact play isn’t your thing, and you want to try pleasurable over painful sensations, then this might be the toy for you! Pinwheels, also known as Wartenberg Wheels, are implements with small, spiked wheels. These spikes increase the sensitivity of your skin and are designed to provide pleasure rather than pain. Run one of these over your partner’s body, and they’ll have goosebumps all over and be anticipating every touch. The Duo Sensory Wheel features 2 wheels for double the pleasure and is easy to manoeuvre across your lover’s skin. Perfect for overstimulating and making them writhe, pair it with some BDSM gear, and watch them buckle against the restraints in pleasure.

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Safety, communication, and consent

Safety, communication, and consent are the core tenets of fetish play, no matter whether you’re engaging with a partner or enjoying it solo.

It's a good idea to research the toys, techniques, and positions you’ll be engaging in beforehand. This ensures that you’re aware of every possibility and prepares you for any scenario. Ensuring you have the necessary tools to stop play immediately is just as important – for example, if you are using ropes, having scissors on hand is much faster (and safer!) than untying the knots.

Equally, if you’re engaging with a partner, communication and consent are key to enjoying the scene to its fullest. Check in with them occasionally to make sure they’re comfortable. This is a great way to ensure that both you and your partner are enjoying your experience. Both of you should also communicate your interests, wants, and limits beforehand to ensure you're both on the same page.

Consent can be given or revoked at any time! It’s important to make sure that your partner is comfortable with everything going on, and that you are too. If you’re uncomfortable, it’s just as important to let your partner know, so that you can try something else.

A great way to communicate this is through safe words. This is a word that you set before engaging in fetish play to communicate that you want play to stop immediately, and any restraints to be removed. This ensures that both you and your partner have a way to stop at any time, should it be too much or stray into territory that you’re not comfortable with.

Communication doesn’t need to be verbal, either. It can be non-verbal – reading your partner’s body language is just as important as their words. Ensuring that they’re comfortable and their body language is positive ensures that they are enjoying the scene to the fullest. If they look uncomfortable or in pain when they’re not supposed to be, discuss it with your partner and work out how to resolve it.

Safe sex is still important to practice, regardless of the kinks you are engaging in. Hygiene, in particular, is important when engaging with fetish toys, as these can absorb sweat and liquids easily.

Finally, Aftercare is important to practice, whether with your partner or solo. Fetish scenes can be intense, and it’s important to take care of yourself and your partner afterwards. Aftercare can be sensual too – wash each other in the shower, cuddle in the afterglow, or talk about the session. Aftercare encompasses both physical and psychological needs - both your body and mind may need to recover from the intensity.

Embracing Fetish Play with Confidence and Consent

Fetish play is not the dark, depraved sexual taboo that the media often portrays it as. It is a healthy, consensual exploration of your body, mind, and senses. Engaging in fetish play often allows for more intimate, trusting, and exciting sexual experiences between partners, and can open up your mind to a whole new realm of possibilities.

Being comfortable enough to express your fetishes and engage with them is a liberating experience, regardless of whether it’s solo or with a partner. No matter whether you’re beginning your journey into kink or already have experience, fetish toys are a great way to help satisfy those kinks.

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