Why Are Most Dildos Bigger Than the Average Penis?

Most dildos are larger than the average penis - but why? Discover the real reasons behind dildo size trends, and how to pick the right one for you.

Research has shown that the average size of a dildo is larger than that of the average penis. The average dildo measures 7.52 inches (19.1cm), while the average penis measures 5.16 inches (13.1cm). Why is this?

Are most penises at a biological shortcoming? Does size really matter? It's a question that has been asked throughout the years. Does the discrepancy between dildos and genetics correlate with desire? Let's find out!

What's the most common dildo size?

The most popular dildo size is 7.52 inches in length and 5.30 inches of girth. However, as many realistic dildos have life-like balls included, this makes the actual insertable length of the dildo between 5-7 inches.

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Why are dildos bigger than the average penis?

Firstly we need to acknowledge that there are plenty of small dildos out there. Many dildo users will use an array of sex toys with differing sizes. Sometimes they will fancy a realistic dildo on the smaller side, other times they will be feeling a huge dildo larger than nine inches in length. Bigger toys may only be used every now and then because they have a greater likelihood of being painful or uncomfortable.

Of course the level of comfortability is different for each person. The other perspective is simply in making an efficient purchase. You may as well buy more, owning a 9 inch dong doesn’t necessarily mean you even plan on inserting 9 inches. You may only desire 5 or 6 inches the majority of the time but can masturbate assured that if you fancy going deeper, the option is there. What’s that quote? One's eyes are bigger than one's stomach!

How much is sexual pleasure dependant on the penis?

Plenty of studies have found that most vulva owners cannot achieve orgasm through penetration alone! If you're sitting there thinking that your average penis is never going to cut it, you're sensually mistaken. The worst thing you can do is trick yourself into thinking your chances of pleasing a woman are limited by your genetics.

Steph Curry was told he was too small to play basketball professionally, a few years later he was named the NBA's MVP. Lionel Messi was told he was too small, he even had a growth hormone deficiency, yet he has consistently been called the best football player in the world. So why would you limit your mentality when it comes to sex? It's a learned skill just like anything else!

If you have a partner that reassures you that size is irrelevant, their words are more to keep you from losing confidence, being distracted and losing intimacy. If you are fortunate enough to have the opportunity to have sex, then you have the opportunity to improve right?

So, keep your head in the game (pun intended) and make the most of things. Don't be the person that talks up a big game and falls short, be the person who stays humble and does everything they can to please their partner.

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The glamorisation of big penises in society

Within a society littered with pornography, displaying people who have been blessed with a massive penis. Sometimes having a monumental member can make you a lot of money, take American rapper and ex-lover of Nicki Minaj Safaree Samuels for example. Samuels signed a seven figure deal in 2018 with sex toy company Doc Johnson, after a nude image of him and his "anaconda" like phella went viral. Doc Johnson moulded a realistic dildo of Samuels, and he became wealthier than his largely criticised music career ever got him.

Therefore, when popular pornography and most dildos are bigger than even an above average joe, it's understandable that people with penises can feel inadequate. Considering that the amount of young people receiving their sexual education from pornography is increasing, the trend can seem worrying. You can imagine you might have a lot of young people within their teenage years waiting for an unrealistic growth spurt.

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Dildo vs Penis: Understanding Pleasure Differences

Everyone experiences pleasure differently. Some prefer a human partner for intimacy, physical responsiveness, and emotional connection. Partners can adjust angle, pace, and pressure, providing sensations a dildo alone cannot replicate.

Others enjoy a mix of partner play and sex toys. Incorporating dildos or couples’ vibrators can enhance pleasure without replacing the partner. Experiment gradually, starting with familiar toys before introducing larger or more complex devices.

Open communication is essential. If you're in a relationship that uses sex toys, one important thing to remember is that you shouldn't force yourself to be comfortable with something. If either partner is really uncomfortable, the sex is going to be terrible. Instead try and have an attitude that at least understands different sex acts.

How to choose a dildo

Wondering what to look for when choosing a dildo? Check out the video below where sex educator, Emma Hewitt, provides her top tips for shopping for the perfect dildo.

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Frequently Asked Questions

How big is the average dildo? Most dildos range from about 5 to 7 inches in insertable length, with an average girth of 4 to 5 inches around. That said, there’s a huge variety available to suit different preferences.
How big is the average penis? Studies show the average erect penis is 5.16 inches long, with a girth of about 4.59 inches. Flaccid size varies more due to factors like temperature and arousal levels.
Why are dildos bigger than the average penis? Many dildos are intentionally made larger than average to cater to users who enjoy a fuller sensation or want to explore different levels of stretch and pressure. There’s also a visual and psychological appeal for some people. However, not all dildos are big - there are plenty of smaller, realistic, and beginner-friendly options too.
Does penis size actually matter? In most cases, not really. Pleasure depends more on communication, technique, and connection than size. The vagina and anus both contain highly sensitive areas near the entrance, so depth and girth beyond a certain point often add little extra stimulation. Comfort, confidence, and understanding what feels good to each partner matter much more.

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