You've discovered you enjoy hair pulling, choking, spanking maybe even aggressive language within the heat of passion.Yet you're pretty certain your desires don't involve a BDSM dungeon. The first step to a new sexual experience with new sensations is acknowledging that you are a little bit kinky. Nothing to be ashamed of, the overwhelming majority of people are! At the moment you're either a beginner or you've established your BDSM limitations as the odd restraint, spanker or submissive position. Whether you're a newbie or prefer to remain at entry level there is another category of beginner bondage play that many people overlook. Light bondage wear!
Light bondage wear usually involves incorporating familiar restraints with your favourite pieces of lingerie, or vice versa. Playing with actions or sensations you are already familiar with but putting a BDSM spin on things. The game changer that light bondage wear connotes is visual arousal. Your partner restrained in lingerie or a specific BDSM harness makes them seem more vulnerable than ever.
"But I prefer my partner in their birthday suit!" Absolutely, however introducing a restraint while clothing is on encourages foreplay, which is a vital part of BDSM. Light bondage is not at the level where one person is the dominant and the other the submissive. It's simply a small addition to pleasurable vanilla sex, where things can often be a bit more one sided. Letting whoever is donning the clothing lay back and relax, feeling comfortable in erotic restraint and confident as arousing art. That partner is forced to submit into receiving sensation and feel completely self indulgent.
The longer spent on foreplay the more intimate the entire experience becomes. Light bondage wear allows you to build the tension to the max, slowly slipping off lingerie. Focusing on erogenous areas that aren't the usual. This might mean spending a bit more time kissing or touching their lips, neck or nipples. Men especially are conditioned to focused on genital pleasure. Light BDSM helps break such conditioning and can help couples realise that better genital pleasure can actually be achieved indirectly.
Here are 5 pieces that mix pleasurable restriction with visual arousal!
The Baci Lace Love Slave Set is the perfect example of light bondage wear. Like your favourite piece of lingerie mixed with a bondage playground. Featuring a lace collar, bra, panties and cuffs all interconnected with chains. Your partner becomes encompassed in bondage beauty and all it's bindings.
For any BDSM beginners, one piece that should never be overlooked is the blindfold. This Negligee Eyemask & Cuff Set is recommended because of it's blindfold. Further the cuffs in this set have straps attached that can be used in various ways. This could mean binding your arms or hands in various ways or tieing to a piece of furniture.
Blocking out ones vision may seem really simple, but the difference it makes is underrated. When it comes to helping your partner relax and enjoy receiving stimulation. Blindfolds helps emphasise other senses and heighten the stimulation provided. If you're unsure about playing with a blindfold, use a tie, scarf or anything similar to experiment with.
This Harness from Bijoux Indiscrets is a great way to promote visual arousal. You can either accompany this harness with lingerie or not! Either way, it's going to emphasise the vulnerability of your partner. Making for one of your most passionate encounters yet!
Jock straps are popular BDSM pieces for men. This Strict Leather Deatachable Jock Strap looks like something a gladiator might've donned after a long hard day of brawling in the colosseum. Fortunately if your wearing this, you might have to unsheath thy longsword once more before the days end. Take your time before detaching the front to drive him crazy.
This piece is also a good introduction to leather. Leather is a premium material that is sought after by BDSM fanatics. It's comfort, smell, and longevity make it popular.
Blindfolds are an enlightening bondage piece that are satisfying to the senses and seductive to your partner. This Mystere Lack Mask from Ouch! Emphasises the elegance a blindfold can produce. Blindfolds are great to accompany with other bondage wear or your favourite bondage restraints.
Before incorporating any new BDSM toys, actions or language into your sex life, thorough negotiation needs to take place! Discussing the limitations of what each partner is comfortable with is essential to a pleasurable experience.
See our BDSM experts guide on - 'Negotiating a BDSM Scene'
Be sure to identify a safe word beforehand! Popular safe words have been: red, pineapple, banana, yellow or unicorn. However other couples have used unusual terms to interrupt a session such as "Dildo Baggins" or "Donald Trump."
Finally, only participate in BDSM play with someone you have the utmost trust in. This will not only ensure sexual comfort but will further make the entire experience a lot more intimate.
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