Last week one wife reached out to the internet for advice on a miserable sex life.
She began noting that although she considered him a good husband and father, her partner was dull and selfish in the bedroom.
"Our sex life is crap and I don't know what to do.
"I have told him what I like in bed but he doesn't really do it much...foreplay is mainly me going down on him and then he is ready to dtd [do the deed], foreplay and sex all together lasts for five minutes.
"I fake orgasms so he doesn't feel bad but I don't know how long I can fake it...the rest of my life?
"We were once talking about female orgasms, he believes a woman should orgasm after sex but that squirting is an urban myth.
"I don't know what to do, I'm just so frustrated."
However, despite his sub-par performance, he's against the idea of her buying a vibrator.
She added: "He's not keen on me buying a rabbit. He once saw me looking at one online and he was upset."
Unfortunately, there are parts of this situation that are not uncommon. Sex lives do tend to take a bit of a hit when a lot of energy is being spent during the day. After everything else, the idea of sex feels like too much effort.
"I have repeatedly tried to talk to him about our relationship.
"For instance, all we do is work, run the house, co parent, run errands.
"I once told him it feels a bit unfulfilling and that I'm not happy as I want us to do something nice and different.
"He said that I watch too much romantic TV and this is what a real-life marriage is supposed to be.
"When I gently tried to point out that other couples do stuff together sometimes, he said that I always think the grass is always greener on the other side and we ended up arguing."
Understandably, her post caused public outrage, with many willing her to change her situation.
One person said: "Stop faking it for starters. You're just pandering to his ego and letting him think you've had a fulfilling experience when you haven't.
"The longer you fake the harder it will be to stop."
Another person said: "Just stop faking. It's the only way.
"He either realises he needs to put some effort in or you find out that he's not actually bothered if you get off or not.
"If it's the latter, buy that rabbit and let him tantrum."
A third said: "This sounds awful. Stop faking. Life is far too short."
The overwhelming response was to buy a vibrator if she wants one, her husband should have no control over this.
One person posted: "What? If you want a vibrator then buy one. It's not his decision."
A third said: "If you want one then get one but that isn't really a solution to your problem."
And this person suggested: "You need to send him an email or letter basically saying what you have said above.
"That the sex is dire and you are buying a rabbit until he gets some better moves."
While this person simply said: "I couldn't be arsed to have sex with someone who cared so little for my pleasure."
There are two huge issues in this situation, firstly there is a lack of effort, priority and intimacy toward their sex life.
However, probably the biggest issue is the refusal to discuss the issue. This is because, discussion is the only way to understand the benefits of a vibrator and realise it has nothing to do with replacing your partner.
It's understandable that other responsibilities can cause temporary dulls in a relationship. This is where a vibrator can be so beneficial! It does the work for you and will make sex even better the next time you have scheduled some intimate time together.